Friday, August 13, 2010

A woman's life as a MISTRESS...

This article is based on factual life conditions of some women. However, some parts of it are integrated as a work of fiction to create a background of a story and bare no references to any human living or dead. The topic is otherwise based on a serious issue, so kindly read at your free will. All the comments and views are accepted.













Him: Hey hi, how are you? Are you feeling okay now?
Me: Yes, I am fine and feeling much better. Thanks though!
Him: So would like to have a coffee and your favorite croissant?
Me: (Delightedly) yes, of course. But, what would you prefer?
Him: Just a regular Panini, nothing else.
Me: Okay, I’ll order it then.
Him: Sure.
(The waiter arrives and takes the order).
Me: Hey, what’s the matter? You look gray and dull. Looks like you are intensely involved into something. Do you want to talk it through, like me?
Him: Well, I am really not sure of how could I start. Hey, can we take a walk and ask the waiter to bring the order after half an hour?
Me: Alright let’s do that then.
Him: Thanks. (We began walking towards the quieter patch on the backside of S.G. Road, he began as he looked at my grave expression). You know what?  I am kind of twitched between the right and wrong, the do’s and don’ts. Things always are darker than what I generally presume them to be. I am optimistic but situations kill optimism at times.
Me: (Looking into his eyes and trying to judge what they held). What do you mean?  Has someone betrayed you or hurt you?

Him: It isn’t anything that’s wrong with me in particular. It’s the people that are nearby me or intend to be nearby me. I overtly ignore the ones I don’t like and just live with the ones I like, as they are and as I am. I expect nothing. But I am usually expected to turn the wheel around,  regardless of my wishes and wills. I laugh, but I am sad about it. I cannot control my own life at times and I am looked upon to control someone else’s life, which is worst condition for me.
Me: You are upset with people and the world around you right?
Him: (Pause) Yes.
Me: I kind of figured that one out. You know what? You love people knowingly or unknowingly so much that you at times fail to understand your own emotions.
Him: I know, you are right once again. Okay, do you remember my friend Priya Thakur?
Me: Ummm...maybe, I faintly remember of hearing her name from you but not something significant. So what’s with her? Tell me anyway.

Him: Alright, let me begin with her background first. You might otherwise not understand what I am talking about.
Priya was basically my school friend, we used sit in the same row of benches. She in the girls column and I in the boys column. We usually exchanged notes after physics and chemistry lectures. She wasn’t much good at them, so I often helped her. She used to give me biology notes, as I hated that subject. She often used to come down to my house or else I went to hers. Her parents were pretty decent people and hadn’t had any objections of me lingering around her house. Now, one fine day say few months before the final board exams she disappeared. She really did!

I thought she must be absent and ignored her absence for few days. But somehow, I wasn’t much convinced and one day I dropped by her house after school. She was sobbing by the window, I ran to her and asked her of what had happened. Her parents had passed away in a car accident whilst traveling to Jodhpur. I asked her what were her plans then and if she needed any help from me or my family. She swiftly denied, saying her uncle would take care of everything and would allow her to study further, but she had to move to Jodhpur with his family. She said she doesn’t want to go but has to. Life had no options for her lest than that, as she said. We both sobbed that evening. She for her family's loss and, I for her loss in my life. We bid goodbye and exchanged numbers.

Me: Hell, this is tragic. I can imagine her and your situation. You are brave!
Him:  Yes, I know I am brave. Anyways, I didn’t hear from her until the second year of my college. She then suddenly on one fine day had called up at my house and had passed her number to my mother. I immediately called her. There were usual silences which broke out with her cry. I asked her what had happened. She said her aunt and uncle never allowed her to study in Jodhpur and she was working and taking care of their children like a maid. She had been living that hell since past two years.

I was shaken once again. I told her to get out of that place and move back to Ahmedabad. She said she had no money. I asked her to check if her parents had left anything for her. She said there was lot of money but her aunt and uncle took it all. I advised her to leave that place and offered her to book tickets from Ahmedabad on a special request; to let her board without ticket on merely my father’s name. She agreed to flee. She did flee and came back in the city. I was much happy to see her.  However, she was much frail and dark due to the laborious household chores for two years. Her eyes talked about nothing but misery and sadness. I took her around the city, offered her a stay at my house and promised her to get a new house and put her back to studies. She agreed to it. I also got her into temporary sales girl job. I did it all. I was a fool or not I am not sure. I tried taking care of her as much as I could. Suddenly after a year or so she left the house, job and school without a word with me.

Me: Oh my God, You did that? Is she still in some lost world? Or you found her once again?
Him: Sadly, I did.
Me: You did? What did you talk to her? Did you trash her?
Him: Before I could say a word, she was sobbing on the phone. I was dazzled to hear her voice after five long years.
Me: FIVE LONG YEARS? Hell, no way did she even remember you till so long?
Him: Yes she remembered everything clearly including our school times.
Me: WOOOOW! Where is she?
Him: I know, wow! She is in Baroda. She is living in a huge mansion like house. I went there.
Me: YOU WENT THERE? Who gave her that? Is it a property of her family? Did her uncle and aunty turn to saints from evils?  
Him: Haha. It’s something I had expected. But it wasn’t true.
Me: Then?
Him: She fled with a married man who was roughly 8-9 years elder to her and had two children. He was the owner of the store that she had worked for.
Me: Holy Christ. That is insane.

Him: Yes, I know it is insane. I almost shouted at her on top of my voice. She has been living there for five years of now. I saw the man too in one of the shops that he owned in Baroda.
Me: You should have called for police then. It is an abuse to a woman’s right.
Him: I thought so too, but she was too scared to do that. He had made her finish her college in Baroda, brought a house for her in there, and also had got a decent earning job for her. Usually on his short visits to baroda he lives in that house with her for couple of hours, gets what he wants and beats her up if she refuses to go against him. SHE IS LIVING A LIFE OF A MISTRESS NOW. He blackmails her; saying if she even plans to escape he will hand over her videos to the pornographers.
Me: ummm…errrmmm….grrrrr…I have no words. I am angry now, on her and that man as well. I feel like shooting him publically.I feel like assassinating him for spoiling a child’s life and two women’s life.  What do you want to do now?

Him: Listen, I can’t go and pick a fight with a man unless she has the courage to leave the life of that brothel and I honestly feel too meager in front of LIFE now. The issue that has summed her life has almost swallowed me up inside. I neither can pity her nor can I be by her side. What should I be doing?  I know I can help her escape, I can help her to contact NGO’s, I can help her live in my house for a while, I can provide a job and financial support to her. But, it is ultimately her call. She has to decide. Gosh, I neither can control my life or someone else’s life? Why are things so unfair?

Me: I understand and totally support you. But then what’s going in your mind as a solution to it?
Him: Nothing, I became a coward and asked her to call me only when she decides to ultimately escape that brothel. I ask you Miss Palak what would you do, if you were to decide the right and wrong?

Me: I…I…I…I don’t know (crying)

P.S. People does anyone of us have an answer to this? I don’t have. I came across this story and felt like putting it on my blog. How many of us can act for women suffering such silent assaults? Again, I don’t know. Please share your views friends.

This post was recommended on Blogadaa on 17th August 2010.

19 comments:

Anonymous Someone said...

Well honestly speaking Palak, even I don't know what would I do...
maybe I would turn him to police under criminal charges.

Palak Vasant said...

@Anonymous: Yeah maybe you are right, but that is not the solution to it...The problem doesn't end there, what about his immediate family and the Priya Thakur(fictional character) herself?

Amit Deshpande said...

Only way out wud b to make her speak up against him. Gals who 'might' b in such a hopeless situation, Feeling threatened abt some video tapes is no solution, turn in the perpetrators to police and u can still try to redeem ur life. People who wud matter wudnt leave u only bcoz a few pics r available on the net.

UB said...

The girl has to take a solid decision. Nobody can help her if she doesn't let them. She might be afraid of the tapes but c'mon hasn't she suffered already? She deserves to live a happy life.
Nice post, very true and actually what's happening to girls these days.

Mehak said...

wow. this is so well written!
u truly deserved the tangy tuesday pick! :)

Sweta said...

Well, this is something the girl should have thought of initially.

I she don't help herself no one else can.

Palak Vasant said...

@ Amit & UB: I do see a valid point and solution to that..putting that into practice is practical..but I wonder about the acceptance of her ownself as well about the world.. For someone like her who hasn't got any one to look upto might just wallow in self pity, catharsis or something worst than that... One such sufferer has to
speak to others, for such situations can only be culminated then... But we the world have to accept them and embrace them...that's all I want people to think, if they ever encounter such times. @ mehak: thank u once again!!! @ sweta she cn help herself when someone or say the world might comfort her on that... make her realize Life is worth living...a woman so down might nt value her life enough to see through good or bad. Rest thank u all for stopping by and Reading/thinking/commenting :)

Maneet said...

Hello Pallak

How fortunate your this male friend would be - that you understand him so well! You know what he feels like...which probably he has never shared with you or anyone!

And I would like to add, the boy is not being coward - it is just that he is now intelligent enough to not to be involved with that girl anymore!From what I understand... He has his battles to fight.

NeViLLe said...

Well there’s not much your friend could do… I can connect with his feeling of helplessness… where you know that you can put everything back together but still can’t do it… since there some things you just can’t control.

On the other hand, I’m thinking that the girl has also seen her share of troubles in life. Losing her parents at such an early with no guidance from her relatives and after being tormented for nearly a decade, she obviously is not in a state of mind to make the right decisions

We all hope for an angel to come by and make things right in our life.. Maybe that’s what this girl needs and what your friend needs to do...

Unknown!!! said...

the blackmailing of videos..is something happening more often these days..any crime report..this is one common..
to answer the question..from the story u told..
the lady has
-no proper education to get a good job
-mentally underwent trauma
-lost all hope in life
-no close relatives etc to take care
-been cheated/blackmailed by that guy

So first of all..that man has to be quickly nabbed by police..and push him behind bars..also his family members have to be told about this rasaleelas..

secondly..she is not the only one in the world who has been facing this..there have been many..and many overcome it..so basically she needs some buildup the courage and self confidence..so for that counselling from psychologists n experts...

Thirdly financial and emotional support from NGOs/women cells/friends of school if any


Finally..some vocational course or some training to get some job..or may be she can join NGOs..which provide jobs for ppl like these..
check this
http://www.ted.com/speakers/sunitha_krishnan.html

Palak Vasant said...

@Neville: I think I agree about the feeling of helplessness, many things in one's life stop by to make one a mere spectator and at times a runner. But I also think is what one really has to work on is "honest soul seeking" and implementing. Her state of mind is granted and that is why I had posted this. An angel really needs to stop by them or some awakening has to stop by them to free their own cages. Thanks for the comment :)

Palak Vasant said...

@ Unknown: Yes, these inhumane things happen way too frequently. Now putting him behind the bars and informing his family is fine but, for family of such a man there isn't much of a social acceptance, neither it is for a woman like Priya. The suggestion about her counselling is worth a take for some women who want to break free but cannot. Thanks! After her mental relief the NGO's and courses can help her, you are right. Thank you once again. Btw I am not sure of you write a blog or not but I tried visiting your page but couldn't.

P.S. Dear reader's, I would like to inform once again this is a fictional story and bear no references with any individual.

Unknown!!! said...

see..now how can u think about family of such man..if u do so..then all culprits have to be left..u cant punish one person in isolation..the family members also get hurt by it..thats y they are family members..
so that point should not stop..

..though it is fictional story..am sure there will be many going thru similar situations.. i remem once in a local channel..a girl who came out to media about this guy who on false promises of marriage..pushed her in prostitution..hitech ...for all his professional benefits he did that..the interview was playing on TV..when I was in India..media is more interested in putting out the story..but not helping her..the interviewer was asking her what her plans for future were..and she ,am sure has no idea about what to do in life, but was audaciously saying that she will do something in life for living..
oops am runnin out of time..will complete the story later...got to catch my cab..

Unknown!!! said...

contd...
I felt the media should have rather got some psychologists, women protection cell members,NGOs..to provide some counseling/consultation..support to her..and not make it some masala story to get TRPs...
those consultation programs can be aired so that others can be educated and help themselves..

on a totally unrelated note
The govt in AP has approved a call center to be setup in jail..run by criminals..when such thing can happen..why cant something be done in this case...

just read about this person Radha Basu in http://www.tedxcalcutta.com/speakers
I personally attended the talk and was inspired be her speech. (She has an NGO which works with people in villages..discounting her capitalist motives if at all there were..she is definitely doing a commendable job..)
There are many NGOs like that which are run professionally..just the awareness has to be spread..

...ok now am lost..:) on what I want to say..i hope all that thing conveys my message...
.so on top priority if something has to be done to Priya..first arrest the culprit..and provide emotional support to her...
rest all will follow..

Palak Vasant said...

Hey...wow, you really had so much of patience to gt back and write so much as a response (hope u caught ur cab..lol)...I really appreciate it! Thank You. :) Yes, you have a right opinion and a point here, providing her emotional support probably to me would be a priority. Next comes that man - yes putting him behind bars is fine, but though ur argument is acceptable socially, I am unconvinced that an innocent family has to suffer :( ...I think that's just being me....hehe. Now lastly the NGO's - u r right, they are probably the only support for a socially torn woman like her, Media sorry like u said I too do not trust it. Also, thanks for TED link, I am gonna listen to her!!!

Unknown!!! said...

hehe yes I got my cab. thanks for that..
hmmm..you very right that his family members will suffer..I was just thinking this way..that he is a criminal who is cheating 2 families..one the married..and the other is priya..now..in this process..both priya and his family will suffer...
I am sure his wife will also hate for whatever he did..if she is a normal woman...also in this case if we read priya has no close relatives..atleast his family will have someone..some property to live on..

--
for postin so much..there is some self satisfaction for me also..cos generally I dont like situation where someone says there is no solution(not that u said..from some of the above comments)..I somehow take it as a challenge and think out for some solution..

..and thanks to you also for the raining comments on my blog..keep in touch :)

Palak Vasant said...

@ Unknown: Yes I agree somehow I deny that undesired and unstoppable suffering...but there isn't anything that you can control on the criminal's social side besides aiding them :( Yes maybe priya might get her share of benefits and his wife and children are just in a mess... ahh glad that u had some satisfaction by my post! hehe sure thanks to you too.

Sourav C. Pandey said...

I felt heavy after reading this, I really hope this us just fiction.

That guy is not a coward, he is helpless. The society we live in restricts and controls him, and each one of us. And yes somehow that girl was as responsible for her situation too, though I am not blaming her!

There is not much of a solution that me or anyone can offer to her; she needs a friend, she needs a shoulder and she needs to get back the faith...

CRD said...

The girl is not at all helpless. She's responsible for whatever befell her. After all, she's the one who eloped with the guy.

She still has a choice to get out of the rut, you know

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